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Today I want to talk about stories and truths.
You Begin To Believe The Story You Tell.
I was having a conversation with someone yesterday about habits and change. I have long believed in one’s ability to change. You are what you want to be. Early in the conversation my friend, a doctor, remarked “You begin to believe the story you tell.” I repeated it to myself: “You begin to believe…(pause)…the story you tell.” And then…it hit me like a punch in the face. What a powerful insight.
We all tell ourselves multiple stories every single day. If you tell yourself the same story long enough, it becomes your truth. If you tell yourself that 20 minutes of exercise first thing in the morning makes you more alert and focused throughout the day, then that’s what you will believe and your actions will reflect that belief. This applies to the stories you’re told as well.
You Begin to Believe The Story You Are Told.
Take, for example, the Malaysian Air flight that was shot down while flying over Ukraine. There’s one country that says X, the opposing country says Y. The people who live in the former country will believe the story that they are being told while people living in the latter country will believe a conflicting story that is being told to them.
Another example of believing the story you’re told is when people believed the world was flat. Studies have shown that we will continue to believe a story, even if it isn’t true, until another story exists to replace it. In other words, people continued to believe the world was flat long after the few non-believers showed evidence that it was round. It took a long time for the “world is round” story–the true story–to replace the false “world is flat” story that people had believed for so long.
Tell Yourself Something Good.
We believe what we tell ourselves, so tell yourself something good. Tell yourself something positive. Tell yourself that everything will work out. Tell yourself that things will get better. Tell yourself that you’re important. And that you’re lovable. And that you can be who you really are. And the best is yet to come. And that you can do this.
Stories become the truth and then they have the power of changing behavior.