Reading Time: 1 minute
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
I believe that being a good listener can take you a long way. I’m as guilty as the next guy of not listening as much as I should at times. The good news is that studies have shown that attentive listening is a skill that can be learned. The bad news is that just like any other skill, being good at it is challenging. It takes focus, commitment and deliberate practice to be a good listener. But the fact that listening skills only sharpen with time and dedication can be viewed as a positive as well. If you’re willing to put the work in where others won’t, you’ll eventually see a big payoff.
I’m not alone in my belief that a majority of the population are NOT attentive listeners. That’s why you quickly recognize it when someone is a good listener…because those people are a rarity.
Talk Less. Listen more. Reply only after thought.